Q: What we do, and why we do it.

The Foundation’s premise is: no one should live in fear of the person they love. Domestic violence and abuse does not discriminate. It occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds and economic levels. While it’s most commonly publicized that women and children are victims of abuse, men are also abused – especially verbally and emotionally – and 15% of reported male abuse-victim cases involve physical violence. The bottom line is that abusive behavior is never acceptable whether the abuser is a man, a woman, a teenager, or an older adult. Our Foundation recognized the “epidemic” of domestic abuse, and the need to bring these issues to the forefront. Our goal is to help facilitate public awareness, and effect change – because every abused person deserves to feel valued & respected… and most importantly, to be safe.

Q: Why does domestic violence and abuse occur?

In most cases, it’s a matter of “control”. Domestic violence incidents and psychological abuse tactics are used by the abuser for one sole purpose: to gain and maintain total control over their victim(s). When the abuser is not only physically violent, but also employs psychological tactics such as “put downs”, insults, or even control of all household money, doing so establishes “boundaries” on the victim (and guilt, shame, intimidation) that wears the victim down and emotionally entraps them. They become convinced they are “worthless” people, who can’t get away. Thus, they become imprisoned in the abusive relationship’s cycle and feel hopeless, with no way out – all due to fear. When victim children are involved, the fear factor is even much greater.

Q: I’ve heard about domestic abuse, but how prevalent is it in America?

Very, and, it’s a crime. In their lifetime, 1 in 4 women (24.3%) and 1 in 7 men (13.8%) aged 18 and older in the USA have been the victim of severe physical violence, and nearly half of all women and men have experienced psychological abuse and aggression by an intimate partner or family member. Domestic violence not only affects those who are abused, but also has a substantial effect on family members, friends, co-workers, other witnesses, and the community at large. Children, who grow up witnessing domestic violence, are among those seriously affected by this crime. Frequent exposure to violence in the home not only predisposes children to numerous social and physical
problems, but also teaches them that violence is a normal way of life – therefore, increasing their risk of becoming society’s next generation of victims and abusers. It must stop.

Q: How can the Stop The Abuse Foundation help victims?

Because reported incidences of abuse and domestic violence typically remain hidden behind closed doors, our goal is twofold: to raise public awareness of the kept-in-the-shadows’ truth about the existence and shocking statistics regarding domestic abuse (via the media; garnering care-center alliances and corporate-partner sponsorships; and by holding or co-sponsoring fundraising events with our strategic partners) and to also provide victims – no matter their age or sex – with key, “now-resources”, so they can be freed from their abusive situation. The funds that our organization receives from its donors, alliance relationships and individual or corporate sponsors will also aid in supporting victims through a professionally-prescribed process wherein they may regain their sense of identity and self-worth, via available professional counseling programs or other bona fide means that provide emotional & medical support, shelter and more (including food, permanent housing-plan assistance, and job training). The Stop the Abuse Foundation, LLC’s goal is to physically and directly aid victims of domestic violence and abuse – to put a STOP to it.